A Little Confrontation Is Good For You

Therese J. Borchard

little-boy-sticking-out-his-tongue-6756428In order to “graduate” from the outpatient psychiatric program of Laurel Hospital in Maryland, we had demonstrate a certain level of competence at assertion skills or confrontation. It’s no wonder why it took me three times longer to be discharged than the other patients.

One day an older woman sat in the middle of the circle. She looked very tired and drained. Her daughter had been dumping her kids off at her door in the morning and leaving them with her until late in the evening. Since the woman was battling different medical conditions, this was very difficult on her health, and prevented her from getting the rest she needed to recover.

“Take these kids,” the nurse said to the woman and pressed on her shoulder.

The woman didn’t say anything.

“What do you say?” the nurse prompted her.

“I won’t be home until late tonight,” the nurse said…

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Just pray

Why do you pray not pray? 

Do  you desire to go astray?

Why do you disobey and refused to pray?

What in this life do you have?

Nothing is here to stay!

The only  way to find peace to pray!

Do not be lost and lonely like stray,

Pray for strength

Pray for peace 

Pray five times a day

It’s the only way to find the path

And stay on the straight way

Pray when in doubt 

Pray went in trouble 

Pray when not in trouble

When worried, in sickness and in health

one must always pray 

It is the only way to keep the demons and devils  at bay 

Just pray night or day 

Just pray

6 Ways to Cope With the Limitations of Depression

Therese J. Borchard

P1070014“I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders,” says a Jewish proverb. A member of my online depression group, Project Beyond Blue, posted it today. I asked them for ways they cope with the limitations of depression because I needed inspiration. My kids have had maybe eight full days of school since before Christmas break. This is a big problem for a highly-sensitive manic-depressive whose desk is in her son’s bedroom. Every time I get a coherent thought—which isn’t often—I am interrupted by a yelp or some grose twerking motion, thanks to Miley Cyrus.

Even when the kids are in school, living with chronic depression demands an acceptance of one’s condition and a willingness to learn how to live around lasting symptoms. I am inspired, in this regard, by Toni Bernhard, author of How to Be Sick. She is so capable and intelligent, but has…

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The Cherokee Legend of the Two Wolves for Depression

Therese J. Borchard

theoceanthewave.blogspot.comThere is a Cherokee legend about an elderly Cherokee brave who tells his grandson about life.

“Son,” he says, “Within all of us there is a battle of two wolves. One is evil. He is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

He continued, “The other is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith.”

“The same fight is going on inside of you, and inside every other person, too,” explained the wise Cherokee elder.

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The grandfather simply replied, “The one you feed.”

I feel the wolves attacking each other every day. Every hour. Most minutes.

One is resentful as hell that she can’t eat a piece of pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving without suffering…

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There Were Times

Qolamii

Assalamu’alaikum everyone!

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Faith in Islam http://turntoislam.com/photo/15806/islamic-quotes-faith-in-allah/ Faith in Islam
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There was a time
we were so close
like wood and fire
but we burnt our selves.

There was a time
when we lived
like rain and cloud
but we abolished each other.

There was a time
we lighted other lives
like candles
we burnt our selves … again.

There was a time
our faith increased
high…higher than the Angels.

There was a time
our faith decreased
low…lower than the animals.

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ألإيمان يزيد وينقص
Faith increases and decreases.

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Should Happiness Really Be the Goal?

Therese J. Borchard

Happiness_is_by_aurelixAccording to renowned psychiatrist Peter Kramer, happiness isn’t the opposite of depression.

Resilience is.

I’ve always loved that reminder because the word “happiness” makes me uneasy.

It’s not that I want to be unhappy, or I don’t want to be happy. It’s that every time I make happiness my goal, I become very unhappy. Like that famous study about suppressing thoughts of white polar bears. When everyone was instructed to think about anything but a white polar bear, they all thought about a white polar bear.

To be completely honest, I even hate the “life is good” t-shirts.

I prefer the “life is crap” ones, such as the one with the cruise ship about to plow over the guy in the canoe. Whenever my husband wears that one, it puts me in a good mood.

I smiled at the discussion on my online depression community, Project Beyond Blue

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Top 5 Hidden Causes of Depression

Therese J. Borchard

Alan Weiss cropLast year, I was seeing four different doctors: a psychiatrist for my mood disorder; an endocrinologist for my pituitary tumor and thyroid issues; a cardiologist for my aortic valve regurgitation; and a primary care physician for some digestive problems and fungus growth.

I suspected that all of my health problems were connected but each doctor refused to look beyond her specialty to achieve a systemic, balanced perspective of how the conditions were related. I searched for an integrative doctor who could piece together all of my broken parts and help me determine some underlying causes for all of the ailments. After spending a few months with a functional doctor who was very anti-medication, I finally—much like Goldilocks—found the right physician: an internist who was willing to look through my files from past doctors and x-rays that exist somewhere on the internet in order to gain a holistic view at my health.

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