LISTENING WITH EMPATHY

Parenting 4 Paradise

Listening means to understand the message being conveyed. Through assumptions, judgements or our own preconceived ideas – our interpretations can become flawed and distorted. Better listening helps avoid conflict and misunderstandings and can improve productivity and ability to communicate in every arena of life.

Listening takes effort! Being an active listener takes ample concentration. By focussing carefully on the other person rather than thinking of counter arguments or planning our subsequent responses – we can maintain undivided attention and show respect.

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WHY DO YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO SUCCEED?

Parenting 4 Paradise

This article originally appeared in issue 64 of SISTERS magazine, available at: 

www.sisters-magazine.com. issue 64

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Our children are often deemed ‘successful’ if they are happy in their lives and personal relationships, and striving to be good human beings who are guided by Allah (SWT) – proceeding to the Hereafter. Success is often seen as having sent ahead the best that they were able to be and do – and leaving behind valuable contributions for their communities.

“Why do you want your child to be successful?” was a question posed to the parents at a gathering about effective Islamic parenting that I attended. Here are some of the types of answers I heard:

Fear of accountability to Allah

Some people said it was their fear of Allah and the desire to ensure they are not held to account for raising a bad child.

The boomerang effect

Some parents envisaged a boomerang effect. By this…

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What is love? 

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Love is when you can’t sleep without having prayed Isha,

Love is when you can’t eat without saying Bismillah first,

Love is when you say Alhamdulillah remembering all that Allah has blessed you with.

The true love we all long for and strive to find our entire lives can only be found with Him. Learn to love and obey Him first, this Ramadan and forever. Then you’ll find someone worth loving for His sake. Because if you don’t learn to love Him, then how will you be capable to experience His never-ending love for you. If you don’t love Him, there will always be something missing or incomplete in your life. No worldly object or being can give you peace and contentment to your soul, than the Divine Lord’s infinite favours, grace and love. Try naming one?

One of the 99 names of Allah Subhanhu Wa Ta’Ala is ‘Al-Wadûd’, meaning…

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10 TIPS FOR LAST 10 BLESSED NIGHTS OF RAMADAN

Alhuda, The Quran Club

  1. Well Prepared: No matter how good or bad your Ramadan went, enter the last 10 Days well prepared, with pure intentions, full energy and a positive outlook.
  2. Listen/Read Tafsir Surah Al-Qadr:  Listen to or read the Tafsir of Surah Al-Qadr to know about this amazing night, to switch that mode ON and to keep it remained ON for all the nights. It could fall on any of the last 10 nights.
  3. Comfortable Place: Choose the most comfortable place for worship in your home or Masjid. Avoid leaning on pillows & cushions while reciting Qur’an or Adhkaar so as to keep your back straight.
  4. Switch off Gadgets: Switch off your mobile phones, iPads and Laptops if possible.
  5. Recitation to Comfort:If you’re alone, recite the Qur’an in a loud beautiful voice so that your ears & heart remain involved with the recitation and you don’t feel drowsy. Plus it has…

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JUZ 14 – POINTS TO PONDER (Part 2)

Alhuda, The Quran Club

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THEME: The very first verse gives direct and strict warning to those who were rejecting the Message (people of Makkah) outright, immediately after this warning they have been admonished to give up shirk, for this false creed was the main obstacle in the way of the Message. Then the following topics come over and over again, one after the other:

  1. Very convincing proofs of Tauhidand refutation of shirkhave been based on the plain signs in the universe and in man’s own self.
  2. The objections of the disbelievers have been answered, their arguments refuted, their doubts removed and their false pretexts exposed.
  3. Warnings have given of the consequences of persistence in false ways and antagonism to the Message.
  4. The moral changes which the Message of the Holy Prophet ﷺ  aims to bring practically in human life have been presented briefly in an appealing manner. 
  5. The Holy Prophet…

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